I absorbed the liberal WASP tradition. I rest on the bedrock of independence and self-sufficiency.
If good fences make good neighbors then the road less travelled by must be mine. If I sing the body electric, then my soul must be as my body.
We hold these truths to be self evident that all men and women are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness
Gentlemen, I refuse the question. I withdraw my consent. I break the contract. The centre can not hold. What falls away is always.
I’m wife; I’ve finished that/that other state;/I’m Czar, I’m woman now:/It’s safe so.
I call the question. I demand an accounting.
I am too pure for you or anyone. You hurt me as the world hurts God.
I advise you to prepare for the day of reckoning.
With all due regard for Robert Frost, Walt Whitman, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, William Butler Yeats, Theodore Roethke, Emily Dickinson, Sylvia Plath
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Ever notice how in the media when a woman faces and unplanned pregnancy she has the baby? Adopting or keeping it, she has it. I had an abotion, but I never feel like I can talk about it and I certainly don't see to many examples of it put out there in regular media.
oh hell yes. At one point I considered that Katherine Heigl must be on the anti abortion payroll as her every film seemed to preach the message, you can raise a kid with any dude, random one night stand, despised BFF of your BFF's husband after they both die tragically in a car accident etc, if you are a pioneer woman whose husband dies suddenly and your only option is to marry a local widower who will take you in the care for his orphaned daughter. I could go on ...
Yes, exactly. I can't even imagine how real people would react about my abortion, given all that's out there now. I railed quite a bit about this the other day, that there's only one model to being a woman: having the baby. What if you can't? We just don't talk about these things.
I found it hugely liberating to speak of my abortion IRL. I can't say I've been brave enough to do it in many settings other than among close friends, but still I was surprised to learn how many of my friends had abortions as well. It truly is one of the last silenced topics around.
Yes, it is. And I wish I didn't feel that way. I'm more willing to speak of it IRL---when I'm quite vehement about my reasons and how un-traumatic it was and how traumatic it would have been to continue the pregnancy---than in the blogworld, where I fear electronic vilifying. I commend your courage and wish I shared it.
You know my blog persona---I'm a not-infrequent commenter---but I just don't feel safe to post my name. So call me Another Anonymous (Anonymous, after all, being a woman).
hmm I don't know why I am so brave on the blog, perhaps because I feel so secure in my anonymity. I'm not worried about people posting negative remarks. I'll just delete them. As not-infrequent readers you know my eff-u attitude works just fine.
I hate more that sometimes I don't just say I HAD AN ABORTION. LOTS OF WOMEN HAVE HAD ABORTIONS, hell you've no idea, you might have an abortion at some point as no one knows the future, when people are going on and on about the evils of abortion.
First Anon here....envious of those of you that can talk about it in real life. I'm not comfortable enough to talk about it online or IRL. Before the abortion, I wasn't against them, but I never thought I'd have one. You're right fMh, you can't tell the future. Since having one, I'm aware of how silencing it can be.
First Anon - it was odd, I needed to talk about it, needed something to counter the awful aspects of it (not the physical, but the political). For me talking about it was owning it, making it mine rather than this thing various other people attempted to influence.
I feel the same urge--a need to talk about it, but unable to figure out how.
Ok I've lost track of which anonymous is which, but heck I'm MORE than happy to talk about abortion even via email if it helps. I did that at first, with people from an online abortion support group before I did it IRL.
so if you want to out yourself email me at feMOMhist fmail
((( )))) to all reading this who feel the same way.
((((all)))))
You're so correct - abortion truly is one of the last silenced topics around. Thank you for breaking that silence.
And a major amen to this: "I hate more that sometimes I don't just say I HAD AN ABORTION. LOTS OF WOMEN HAVE HAD ABORTIONS, hell you've no idea, you might have an abortion at some point as no one knows the future, when people are going on and on about the evils of abortion."
Second Anonymous says, Thanks GEW, but I don't need a hug. My whole point is that it was the right thing to do, it was no more traumatic than going to the dentist, and yet I feel that I can't SAY that. The narrative is supposed to be, oh it was such a wrenching decision but sometimes it's necessary. It wasn't wrenching. I didn't suffer. I was and am deeply grateful that I could just go and have the damned abortion in a matter-of-fact environment.
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